Lucid Dreaming

When we start practicing lucid dreaming
, the possibilities suddenly opened for us, the excitement and the joy of being your own dream master makes us forget that lucid dreaming is not the primary goal. Studying dreams is, first of all, a self-study. It helps us to stay tuned to what’s going on in our subconsciousness, to improve ourselves, to receive guidance and solve problems we face in our everyday life. Lucid dreaming is a powerful tool helping us to achieve these goals but the abilities and the fun that come with them are a bonus.

Why Do We Stop Lucid Dreaming?

Sometimes we get caught in attempts to have a lucid dream tonight and every night, more often than it’s possible. We put all our energy into the task. We visualise, meditate, do the reality checks every half-a-minute and go to bed determined to see a lucid dream. But all in vain. We start to wonder if the ability is lost forever. Of course, nothing is lost forever (unless we are severely brain-damaged), but if you can’t achieve lucid dreaming despite all the effort, probably your overloaded mind tries to send you a message. I faced such a situation soon after I resumed my dream studies. Lucid dreaming just stopped for a while, and I couldn’t understand what may have caused it. I had enough sleep, my life was relatively stable, I tried all the lucid dreaming techniques I usually do. Nothing worked. It was obvious that under the calm surface something was wrong. I couldn’t put my finger on it at the time. But I knew from the experience that if there is an answer, it has to be in my dreams.

“The Truth Is Out There”

So I went over my recent entries. There were few of them, and the dreams I wrote down were mostly fragmentary. However, I’ve noticed that most of them contained some reference to school or studies. I dreamed about my university, examination rooms, about taking some crazy courses… It seemed like I was back at school almost every night. That gave me something to think about. Why was I keeping those studies? Was it a good thing or a bad thing? Was I learning anything new or just go other something I don’t need anymore? I had the feeling that the studies in my dreams were unnecessary, exhausting and annoying. I was definitely stuck in a “groundhog day” of my own. When I tried to apply the idea of exhausting studies and my dreaming, it suddenly clicked: I was so busy experimenting with my lucid dreaming techniques and so concentrated on achieving lucidity that I was dismissing my regular dreams. I started to see any of them that weren’t lucid as a failure. It was like taking an exam after an exam and fail. The dreams were trying to give me a hint for almost two weeks. With that realisation, I deliberately stopped doing anything to induce lucid dreaming. I promised myself to make peace with my usual dreams first.

“Pick It Up”

I was swimming in the sea at sunset, surrounded by big and beautiful gray dolphins. They were playing in the water, and one of them let me to hold on to her fin. We swam together, and then she started to talk to me in English (which is not my native language). “How do you know English so well?” I asked. “Well, there are a lot of ships with English-speaking crews in the sea. We just pick up languages as we swim and help people” she said. That was the message: you don’t always have to strain to learn. Sometimes, you can just “pick it up” as you go, using your other experience and intuition. And whenever I think about studying dreams, I recall that sea and the wise creatures roaming its waters. I would probably have never discovered them if I didn’t let go of my attempts at lucid dreaming for a while. I encourage you to explore, learn and enjoy the experience. But whenever you feel stuck, take a break and listen to the message of your dreams.